The sense of grief and loss you experience when someone close to you dies can be overwhelming. You can go through numbness, anger, sadness, but can also cause physical reaction, loss of energy, appetite, sleeplessness. Grief is normal but can be hard to bear and mourning is a long process.

Who can help

Bupa produce a useful factsheet on bereavement.

RAF Community Support also have information on Bereavement and Casualty and have links to the RAF Widows Association who offer support, comfort, friendship and advice to those newly bereaved whos spouse was serving in the RAF at the time of their death. The RAFCOM website also offer link to other sources of information and support and are committed to aid family members in their time of need.

Winston's Wish is a charity that helps bereaved children who have lost a parent or siblings. Winston'w Wish have published a book 'The family has been informed'

The Forces Children's Trust is a charity devoted to helping dependent children that have lost a parent whilst serving with the Armed Forces.

Scotty’s Little Soldiers A charity dedicated to supporting bereaved British Forces Children aged 0-18 years. Support is available to families from the British Army, Royal Navy or RAF, regular and reserves and is not limited to those killed in action.  Children who have lost a parent through illness or accident are also eligible as long as their parent was a serving member of the British Forces at the time of their death, or was medically discharged due to a condition which eventually led to their death.

In the sad instance that parents lose a son or daughter, the Rosie Crane Trust offers a 24 hour Listening Ear Helpline an supports parents of children of any age. Their 24 hour Helpline is 01460 55120 or

FAB Providing fun and challenging activity holidays around the UK for bereaved military families.

CRUSE Cruse Bereavement Care is a charity whose aim is to promote the well-being of bereaved people and to enable anyone bereaved by death to understand their grief and cope with their loss.  Services are free to bereaved people and the charity provides support and offers information, advice, education and training services.

CRUSE have a YouTube channel with a selection of videos looking at the factors that impose on those bereaved by 'Death in Service'.

Support Groups

SSAFA run two support for those recently bereaved including those who have lost loved ones in recent conflicts.

The tri-service groups meet regularly, offering mutual support and allowing families to share experiences, information and advice.

For further information about the SSAFA Family Support Groups visit or contact Jane Barnes at SSAFA on 020 7463 9234

Legal Advice on the Inquest Process

The Royal British Legion has secured funding to offer Free Independent Legal Advice to families where there has been a death in-Service.

Further information is available at the Royal British Legion website

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