Domestic Abuse

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse is defined by the Government as “any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional abuse”. (P8 of the MOD’s Domestic Abuse strategy entitled “No Defence for Abuse”).

This strategy, which sits alongside the Armed forces families’ strategy and Defence people mental health and wellbeing strategy is written for all defence people:

  • regular and reserve personnel,
  • service families
  • defence civilians

Support for RAF personnel and families


SSAFA work alongside the RAF, but outside the chain of command, to provide RAF personnel and families, whether Regular or Reverve, with confidential personal support and social work services. SSAFA also have sheltered housing for women and children.

Phone: 03000 111 723
Email: [email protected]

Auroura New Doawn

Aurora New Dawn provide a dedicated service to armed forces personnel and their families;

Email: [email protected]
Phone: 023 92 479254
Phone or text our forces advocate on (voicemail maybe in operation)

General support for Domestic Abuse

Safe Spaces to seek help and make a call

UK says no more has joined with pharmacies including Boots, Superdrug, Morrisons and some independent pharmacies to launch the Safe Spaces scheme for people who are experiencing domestic abuse. Safe spaces are located within the pharmacy’s consultation room and provide the opportunity for victims of domestic abuse to access specialist support, phone a helpline, contact a support service or talk to a friend or family member. To access the Safe Space, go to the healthcare counter and ask to use their Safe Space. The pharmacist will show you to the Safe Space and once you are inside, all the specialist domestic abuse support information will be available for you to access, and you can make that call safely. The Safe Spaces scheme is country wide, find your nearest Safe Space.

  • Free 24 hour National Domestic Abuse helpline 0808 2000 247
  • National Stalking helpline 0808 802 0330
  • Silent call – If you need to, you can make a silent call to the police. Dial 999 and then 55 if you can’t talk.
  • WomensAid provide plenty of online ways to access support and links to local services where you are.
  • Refuge is a source of support and advice including links to local services if you need them.
  • The Male Survivors Partnership is for men experiencing domestic abuse: 0808 800 5005
  • The Mankind Initiative an alternative helpline for men being abused by a current or former partner: 01823 334244
  • Respect provides a Men’s Advice Line to support male victims of domestic abuse and also provide advice for concerned family, friends and Frontline Workers who may be supporting male victims.
  • GALOP offers support for LGBT people experiencing abuse: 0800 999 5428
  • Bright Sky is a mobile app which is designed to be used by anyone looking for more information about domestic abuse, including; online safety, staking and harassment and sexual consent. For more information and to download the app.
  • Aurora Stalking services provides advice and safety planning.
  • The Cumbria, Northumberland, Tyne and Wear NHS Foundation Trust has produced a self help guide around Domestic Abuse.

Perpetrator Programmes

Perpetrator programmes support participants to change their behaviour and challenge them to look at the causes of violence and abuse helping them to understand why they have been abusive. They are encouraged to take responsibility for their abusive behaviour and to acknowledge the impact of their abuse. They will also learn different, positive ways of behaving in relationships.

There are several Perpetrator Programmes available throughout the UK and many of these accept self-referrals. Respect can provide you with a full list of Perpetrator Programmes in your area.

The Respect helpline is a free, anonymous and confidential helpline for men and women who are harming their partners and families. It provides specialist advice and guidance to help people change their behaviours and support for those working with domestic abuse perpetrators.

  • Phone: 0808 802 4040 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm)
  • Email: [email protected]
  • Webchat is also available – Wednesday, Thursday, Friday – 10-11am and 3-4pm

Associated domestic abuse policy and links

JSP 913: Tri-Service Policy on Domestic Abuse and Sexual Violence

AP7005, Leaflet 306 – Domestic Abuse:  RAF single service policy to communicate and support JSP 913 Tri-Service policy

JSP 834: Safeguarding Service Children and Young People

Domestic abuse: guidance and support for the armed forces community

Armed forces domestic abuse handbook for civilian support services Guide for service providers

Strategy to end violence against women and girls: 2016 to 2020